Pareting is changing my relationship with my partner. What should I do now?
Learn how parenting changes your relationship, why distance happens, and simple ways to reconnect with your partner during busy family life.
At some point, often without a clear before-and-after moment, you look at the person you chose and realize that most of what you say to each other is about logistics.
Who’s picking up, who’s making dinner, whether the permission slip was signed, what time the appointment is, whose turn it is to handle whatever needs to be handled tonight. You’re a highly efficient operational unit. You co-parent well. You function.
And somewhere beneath the functioning, something that used to be more visible has gone quiet. Not gone, but quieter. The couple you were before the children arrived is still in there, somewhere, underneath the schedule and the exhaustion and the particular intimacy of two people who have been through a lot together and stopped talking about most of it.